Category: Kim’s Blog

We have a beloved Newfoundland dog. His name is Fergus. He is ten and a half years old and weighs 136 pounds. He is black with white on the chest and one white paw. True to his breed, he is devoted and obedient.

Maybe because of his size combined with his even temperament, I don’t think I have ever seen Fergus scared. I haven’t seen him cower or hang his head in shame. He has no need to. He’s not bothered by storms or lightening. Loud noises don’t disturb him. But once in a while, something goes on that he is not keen about. I may be brushing him and he’s tired of being brushed. Or one of our other dogs comes into the room and he doesn’t want to be part of a crowd. Or our little dog, Andre, will try to lick his face, which he finds annoying.

And what does Fergus do when he is not pleased with what is going on? I have never heard him bark or snarl in anger or hostility. I have never seen him nip another dog and certainly not a person. I have not seen him growl. When Fergus does not like what is going on, he gets up and moves. He walks away. He then finds a quiet place and lays down, minding his own business.

This is a good thing to remember when we think about Wonder-Full peace. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. Remove yourself from the situation. There may be times in a hostile situation that constructive progress just cannot be made at that moment. So, rather than notching up the tension, stepping out of the situation, at least temporarily, may be the best option. Maybe after a breather, progress can be made in resolving the situation. There may then be a time to re-engage and move forward.

When we think about working for peace, we realize that we cannot control other people and sometimes it is hard to control ourselves. Walking away, cooling off, getting some distance and perspective may be the best way to eventually move toward reconciliation.

Is there a time when you walked away? Later, how did you feel about that? Looking back, is there a time when you wish you had disengaged from a difficult situation?

Prayer: We want to be people of courage making a constructive contribution to the world. We want to be peacemakers. We pray for discernment to know when the best course of action is to take a break and disengage. Sometimes we need to give ourselves time to get re-centered, to regain our strength of purpose, to cool our anger and fuel our compassion. We pray for the perseverance to continue seeking reconciliation where it is needed in our lives and in the world. Amen.

I recently went by a neighborhood home to see some Christmas lights that I enjoy each year. For some reason, the lights were not on at that time. You could see some of the decorations in the yard thanks to the street light. The figures and animals were visible. Some of the other displays could be seen. It was charming in a subtle way. But when the lights are on, it is a vibrant, joyful, riot of color and brightness.

I think of peace being like this. Without peace, things go on, life continues. But often life is restricted. Lessened. Drab. But with peace, life can be vibrant and compelling. There can be rampant joy and creativity. Peace is what God intends for the world so that all people can fully enjoy and take delight in the gift of life.

Think of a time that you experienced a glimpse of the vibrancy of peace.

Prayer: We are so grateful for this wonderful world. The many people and cultures form a glorious tapestry when there is peace. Help us to bring life to its fuller possibilities by increasing the peace in the world. Amen.

Recently I was sent a video about some children and what they wanted for Christmas. They were asked to write one letter to the Three Kings (the Spanish version of Santa) saying what they wanted for Christmas. The letters referred to the usual toys, video games, etc. Then the children were asked to write another letter, this one to their parents, saying what they wanted from their parents for Christmas. These letters asked for nonmaterial things like spending time together reading or playing soccer. Then the children were asked if they could only send one of the letters, which one would they send? Yes, all the children chose the letter to the parents.

Here’s the link to see more about the experiment:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/24/spanish-ikea-ad_n_6377434.html

Raising children takes lots of time, effort, and attention. This can be difficult to deliver when parents are working, working, working to provide for their children and when the demands of every day life are so draining in our complex consumerist society. Kids need parents to talk with them, play with them, learn about things together, have experiences together, share feelings, read together and talk about the stories. That all takes energy and time. And most parents probably feel they have more of a deficit of time and energy than of money.

Peace is like this. Peace takes time. Peace involves relationships, getting to know people, learning to trust others, listening and understanding. Whether the situation is between two people, two groups, or two countries, peace is often a time and energy consuming process. It requires commitment and creativity. We can see how it can appear to be easier to just sever a relationship rather than work for reconciliation and peace. We can see how it can be easier to lash out and make demands rather than go through a painstaking, difficult, tiresome, drawn out process of negotiation and compromise.

But children who have their material needs met but not their emotional and spiritual needs are less happy and have more problems. Kids that don’t get needed attention and energy and time from their parents have a harder time. Peace is like that. We may seek the quick fix, but it may not be lasting. It may not be as good for all those involved. It may not have the long term positive effects that peace can have, when the time and energy is put into seeking peace. Peace may be a more difficult path but it is also more rewarding and better for all those involved.

Can you think of a time that you invested yourself in working for peace? Think of the effort that was put into the process and the result.

Prayer: So often we want immediate results. We want to see a positive outcome right away. May we remember that peace is very precious and can take a long time to create and to maintain. May we think about our faith and the stories we have of God’s efforts to be at peace with humanity. May we summon that same kind of commitment and patience in our efforts for peace with ourselves, with one another, with creation, and with God. Amen.

Our daughter called the other day. She’s the pastor of the UCC church in Burlington, MA. We were discussing preaching themes for the Advent/Christmas season. She was sharing conceptual ideas and I was chiming in with some concrete illustrations and stories that went with the themes she was sharing. After a couple of my comments and ideas, she said, rather exasperated, “Mom, that’s science again. You’re always getting into science.”  Well, she might have intended her comment as a criticism but I took it as a compliment.

Science and religion work well together. In fact, they are better together. Religion can offer an ethical and values based grounding for science. And science again and again illuminates spiritual insights. Good science and good religion can form a very strong partnership. I think of science and religion not as antagonists but as allies.

When it comes to peace, yes, we need practical solutions, and that’s where hard science and social science have contributions to make. Facts. Figures. Strategies. Trade offs. Background and history. But religion fosters the desire for peace and the will to work for peace. Religion encourages the commitment to seek solutions and can change hearts. So, in thinking about Wonder-Full peace, religion and science make a great team for the pursuit of peace at many levels and in many situations. This Advent season, we can also think about making peace between science and religion and putting to rest the false notions around the incompatibility of the two.

Think of a time when science just left you in awe. How wonderful to celebrate the intellect put to use. Some would call that God at work.

Prayer: It is amazing all the things that we can learn from science about the world, about nature, about space, about our bodies, about life. May we be so awed by science that we praise the God of creation. And may we love this world as God does and so go to any lengths to create peace. Amen.

Today I received an email asking me to sign on to a letter of support to the Muslim community from the Auburn Senior Fellows via Groundswell. You know this kind of thing – sign a letter, sign a petition, send a message to someone in authority about an issue.  The letter I got today is a statement that affirms the presence of Muslims in America and condemns the rising tide of anti-Muslim sentiment in America. What I like about the letter is that is does more than condemn the actions of others, affirm a different perspective, and ask others to change.   It also asks the signers to promise to take action in support and protection of Muslims. One part of the letter declares:

America is not America without Muslims. As people of faith and moral conscience, we promise to defend our Muslim brothers and sisters from attack, to speak up when they are maligned, and to support them with our voices, our actions, and our bodies.

I like the commitment of this statement. It is easy to add my name to something on line and hope that I am counted. Hope that someone is paying attention to the number of signers. Or tell someone else to change.  But this letter asks me to do something in my day to day life beyond just typing my name in a box on a screen.

We are fortunate in St. Petersburg that there is an active Interfaith Association cultivating positive relationships among people of differing faiths. Because of this group and other community initiatives, I know several Muslim people.  These are people I can call on the phone or email.  People I feel I know well enough to have honest conversations about what is really going on.

Having signed the letter in support of Muslims in America, with the commitment to be personally involved in supporting Muslims, I am planning to ask my Muslim friends directly about how they are being treated day in and day out here in St. Petersburg. I look forward to getting a frank report. Then I will know how I can be helpful right here in our backyard.

This is part of what peace is about. Lofty ideals, yes, but also taking action in our every day lives close to home.

Maybe you can think of a time that you were able to help someone that was being targeted in some way – being bullied, harassed, taken advantage of. What did it feel like to take action on your principles?

Prayer: It’s easy to wish and hope and pray for things. Our faith also compels us to take action. That is harder. It can be inconvenient. It can be risky. We may be afraid of doing the wrong thing and so do nothing. Jesus is a great model for us of someone who lived out his longings each and every day. As we try to follow him, we increase the peace in the world and in ourselves. Amen.